Why My One True Love Is Myself

Hi lovelies,

I watched City of Bones the other day and it was fabulous and brilliant and I love it so much – especially Jace! Oh my god, he was so hot and I love him so much!!

Okay, moving on from my fangirl squealing over Jace and the rest of the movie, there was one line that really stuck with me. At one point, somebody says something about love to Jace and he replies with, ‘Sadly, my one true love remains myself.’

That really got under my skin. Like, so much. It wasn’t the fact that he was his own true love; it was the fact that he started the sentence with ‘sadly’. I think that is absolute bollocks. My true love is absolutely myself.

Why? Well, when you look at what you know about true love, it’s pretty easy.

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True love is meant to last forever. To be precise, ‘far longer than forever, and constant as a star’ in the words of Odette from The Swan Princess. I love myself. It took me a long time to do that, but I do love myself now. I always will. I may have my ups and downs, but I will remain true to myself and to my love.

Your true love is meant to be the one that can take away your pain and make you feel better. Or, as said by 5 Seconds of Summer in Heartbreak Girl – ‘I dedicate this song to you, the one who never sees the truth, that I can take away your hurt, heartbreak girl’. That’s true. I can make myself feel better. Not always – sometimes you need someone else, but often. Doing something just for me, whether it’s painting my nails, reading a book, taking a shower or just sitting in the dark – it’s a way of comforting myself. A way of telling myself, ‘it’s okay, it’ll get better. Just don’t give up’.

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Your true love is meant to believe in you. Unequivocally and absolutely. They will believe in you to do want you want. They believe that you will succeed – no matter how hard it seems at that time. Because ‘baby you’re a firework, go and show them what your worth’. They believe that, just like Katy Perry did. It’s hard to do that, I’ll admit. But it doesn’t have to be huge. It’s just about knowing that somehow, you will be okay. You will make it through.

Your true love is meant to stick with you. Through thick and thin, good times and bad times and be there for you. They need to be strong. If you ask them, just like McFly does, ‘Are you feeling strong? Strong enough to love someone? And make it through the hardest storm, and bad weather?’, would they say yes? I know that I asked myself that, I would always, always say yes.

And they are only a few compartments of true love. But even when you look at them, it’s pretty easy to see how your first true love should always be yourself. Who else will look after you, when nobody else will? Who else knows you and all your skeletons and darkest secrets? That is what true love is about. That is what real love is about.

And if you can’t love yourself, how can expect anyone else to?

True love means forever, it’s constant and comforting and it means security. It means having someone to stay with even through the darkest storms and someone to enjoy the brightest rainbows with. It means knowing that someone believes in you and that to someone, you really mean the world. And if that someone is yourself, then it’s wonderful. It means a life partner that will always be there. Isn’t that what everyone wants?

From here. And not good advertisements for body positivity. Idiots...

It seems like our society has this taboo on self-confidence – that it’s not attractive to be proud of yourself. That it means you’re arrogant and up yourself. Just look at One Directions lyrics – ‘you don’t know you’re beautiful, and that’s what makes you beautiful’. No. That is not attractive. It does not make you beautiful to not know that you’re beautiful. It makes me sad because you can’t see how beautiful you really are.

I know that this is a little late for Body Awareness Week, whoops, but it sort of ties into it. And to be honest? I don’t think we should have a body awareness week. I think every week should be body awareness week. Every week we should be more open about body image, eating disorders and promoting body positivity.

Lots of love to you all and hope that this has helped you find your true love. :)